如何克制愤怒与仇恨
观音是爱与慈悲的化身。我们本自具足爱与慈悲的种子：爱自己以及他人，而这个观音的口传将使这些种子更有价值。
Chenrezig is the embodiment of love and compassion. We already have within us the seeds of love and compassion both for ourself and for others. This Chenrezig transmission enhances these seeds.
爱与慈悲之种的反面就是仇恨之种，如果我们要对两者加以区分的话，可以说仇恨是破坏性的，而仁爱则能带来利益。
The opposite to these seeds of love and compassion are the worst seeds of hatred. If we could them then we’d say that hatred is destructive whilst loving-kindness is beneficial.
有时候我们会从他人那里感受到敌意，但如果我们反省一下就会发现其中必然会有原因。这里有一个小故事：
Sometimes we receive hatred from others but if we introspect then we will see that there must have been a cause. Here’s a little story:
在西藏，有一位伟大的瑜伽士名叫密勒日巴，他受到西藏所有佛教学派的尊崇。密勒日巴的故事和印度著名的诗人蚁垤很相似。蚁垤在早年曾是一名专门抢劫朝圣者和旅行者的强盗，他的内心充满愤怒，直到有一天蚁垤碰到了一位身无分文的瑜伽士(悉达)(注：梵文siddha，音译“悉达”，既有成就的佛教修行者，或成就者)，蚁垤试图杀害这位瑜伽士。但最后，蚁垤与瑜伽士的相遇成了他人生的转折点。(注：在法王五月二十一日的开示中讲到了这个故事)
In Tibet there was a great yogi called Milarepa who is respected by all schools in Tibetan Buddhism. His story is similar to the great poet Valmiki, who in his early life was a bandit who stole from pilgrims and travellers. He was full of anger. One day he met a yogi (siddha) who had no valuables and tried to kill him. However, meeting this yogi ended up being the turning point of his life.
密勒日巴在他年轻时也曾犯下了许多恶行。密勒日巴出生在一个偏僻地区的富裕家庭，他的祖先很早就迁徙到这里，并慢慢富裕起来，当地人并不乐于见到他们的成功，人们非常的妒忌他们。
Milarepa in his youth had also done a lot of negative deeds. He was born in a remote area into a very rich family. His forefathers had migrated there and became very wealthy. The locals, thus, disliked their success and were very jealous.
密勒日巴有一个妹妹，他的父亲在他很小的时候就因为重病而去世了。父亲的财产全部落入到密勒日巴伯父的手里，，这些财产原本是应该在密勒日巴长大成人时交还给他的。
Milarepa had one sister and his father had died due to a serious illness when he was very young. All the father’s wealth had fallen into his father’s brothers’s hands and as supposed to be released to Milarepa when he became old enough to be the custodian.
关于这个故事有两种说法，其中一个是说当时密勒日巴的母亲只有27岁，那位伯父希望她能够改嫁给自己的儿子，但她却不愿意。因为她的拒绝，密勒日巴的伯父开始非常恶劣的对待她。密勒日巴一家只能得到极少的一点衣食，还经常遭到伯父一家的虐待，他们饥饿不堪还被迫要去做苦工。
There are different versions of the story and one says that when Milarepa’s mother was 27, the uncle wanted her to re-marry to his son but she didn’t want to. He then started to treat her very badly because of her refusal. As a result they had very little food or clothing and underwent a lot of mistreatment from the uncle and his family. They were starved and forced to do hard work.
当密勒日巴长大成人可以管理父亲留下的财产时，他的伯父却不愿意交出财产。不幸的是，密勒日巴的母亲是个天生心胸狭窄的人，无法原谅他的伯父，她希望能够复仇，于是将密勒日巴送去学习黑巫术。经过诸多艰难困苦，密勒日巴成为了熟练的咒师并杀死了25个人。村庄里的人们非常的难过，并因此而与密勒日巴为敌。
When Milarepa became old enough to look after his father’s wealth, the uncle didn’t give it. Unfortunately Milarepa’s mother had a natural tendency to be ill at heart and couldn’t forgive the uncle. She wanted revenge and sent Milarepa away to learn black magic. After a lot of hardship and difficulties he became very accomplished and killed 25 people. The people in the village became very upset and turned against him because of that.
我(注：法王)对双方都能够理解，也能看出为什么他们会仇恨对方。但密勒日巴与其伯父有着巨大的不同：他的伯父始终怀着仇恨；而密勒日巴在杀死如此多人之后，出于悔恨和愧疚，他放弃了对伯父的仇恨。密勒日巴选择了佛法的道路，开始练习如何去爱所有众生，这样一来他嗔恨的倾向就得到了彻底的消除。
His Holiness said that he could understand both sides and see why they both had malicious spite towards each other but there was one major difference between the uncle and Milarepa. The uncle continued to bear his spite but Milarepa out his great regret for killing so many people had forsaken his spite against his uncle. He took the path of Dharma and undertook the practice of receiving and developing loving kindness to all beings so that his tendency to spite was completely over come.
密勒日巴的母亲去世后，他的妹妹仍然遭受着贫穷的折磨却再也没有理由去怀恨了。自从密勒日巴消除了他的仇恨，他伯父的态度也开始变得缓和。
His mother was already dead and his sister who was also afflicted by poverty had no reason to bear malice. Since Milarepa had overcome his tendency towards malice, the uncle’s atitude also declined.
随着时间的流逝，人们也开始明白密勒日巴当初为什么要那样做。在深深的自责下，密勒日巴也努力地去清除自己的罪行，并经历了修行佛法的众多困难。
As time passed by they too understood why Milarepa had done what he had done. With great remorse he purified his misdeeds and underwent the difficulties of practising the Dharma.
有一日，密勒日巴的姑母前来祈求原谅。那天当她到来时，密勒日巴正在说法。她远远的就被看见了，于是一场讨论就此展开。
One day, his aunt came to beg for forgiveness. On the day that she came Milarepa was giving a teaching. She could be seen coming from a distance and so a discussion ensued as to whether she should be let in or not.
密勒日巴的妹妹说，这位姑母曾经给他们带来了这么多的痛苦，如果允许姑母进来的话，那她最好还是离开。
Milarepa’s sister said that because she had caused so much torture, she’d leave if the aunt was allowed to come in.
关于这一段也是有很多说法，其中一个说法是，密勒日巴很和蔼地回答他的妹妹，说道：“如果你还有任何疑虑，我会答应你不让姑母进来。”但是考虑了一小会，基于佛法的观点，密勒日巴决定，不能舍弃他的姑母或者任何众生，无论是亲戚还是敌人，对所有众生都应该一视同仁，包括对他的姑母，也是一样。
Again, there are many versions to this tale but one says that Milarepa responded to his sister’s kindness by saying if she had any reservations that he’d agree with her and not let the aunt come in. Then on second thoughts and from the point of view of the dharma, he chose not to abandon his aunt or any sentient being, whether a close relative or an enemy but to look upon all beings, including his aunt, equally.
所以，密勒日巴让姑母进来，但并没有正面看她，而是隔着一块屏风和她说话。一开始，密勒日巴很严厉的提醒他的姑母，当他和妹妹没有食物的时候，她从来都没来过，也没有提供过任何食物，更不承认她是他们的姑母。
So he let her in but he didn’t see her face to face. He spoke to her indirectly through a screen. At first, he spoke very harshly reminding her of when he and his sister had no food that she never came and offered any food nor claim to be their aunt.
当密勒日巴说出这些字句(注：据《密勒日巴尊者传》记载，密勒日巴当时是以道歌的形式唱出这段话的)，她的姑母感到强烈的自责与后悔，并且由于她深深忏悔的力量，使她后来成为了密勒日巴杰出的弟子之一。
When Milarepa said these words she felt intense remorse and repented and due to the power of her deep regret she later became one of Milarepa’s most outstanding disciples.
