《121》有一位妇女想知道该如何处理瞋怒。我问她当瞋怒生起时,那瞋怒是谁的,她说,那是她的。如果真的是她的瞋怒,那么,她就应该有能力去叫它离开,是不是?可是,事实上,瞋怒并不是她所能使唤的。将瞋怒执取成个人所拥有的,会造成苦。如果瞋怒真的属于我们的,它就必须服从我们;如果它不服从我们,就表示它只是个骗局;不要被它给骗了!不论心快乐或悲伤,不要为它所骗,这都只不过是骗局罢了。
A woman wanted to know how to deal with anger. I asked her when anger arose whose anger it was. She said it was hers. Well, if it really was her anger, then she should be able to tell it to go away, shouldn’t she? But it really isn’t hers to command. Holding on to anger, as a personal possession will cause suffering. If anger really belonged to us, it would have to obey us. If it doesn’t obey us, that means that it’s only a deception. Don’t fall for it. Whether the mind is happy or sad, don’t fall for it. It’s all a deception.